Weddings & Handfastings

* Wedding Officiant *

in

* Southern California *

The pledge painting by Laura Theresa Alma-Tadema 1904
The pledge painting by Laura Theresa Alma-Tadema 1904


But he was not always alone, because years
afterward he became a man and married.
But that is a story for grown-ups.

Rudyard Kipling

Experience with Weddings


Featured in Handfastings.org, mywedding.com, Wedding.com, the knot.

Any style of wedding for any denomination may be happily discussed :) Her experience includes signing and submitting the marriage license to the recognizing governing authority, and performing as a legal officiant for the couple on wedding day.




you are listening to La cathédrale engloutie (The Engulfed Cathedral):
Profondément calme (The Sunken Cathedral)
inspired by the mythical, subaquatic city of Ys,
whose church bells ring from under the sea
written by Claude Debussy, performed by Jeremiah Jones.


Legally ordained since 2003 and ritually initiated through Magicka School as a High Priestess of Wicca with Second Degree equivalency, her ministerial clergy member affiliations include Universal Life Church in Modesto, California and the Church of Spiritual Humanism. She is a dedicant of the Correllian Nativist Tradition and a life member of Magicka School in Tuscany, Italy.

The couple shall be at least 18 years of age, and present a signed marriage license and photo identifications to the Wedding Officiant. Vows shall be exchanged before one or two witnesses, who shall present photo identifications and sign the license. Afterwards, the Wedding Officiant shall sign and mail in the license.

Marriages in unincorporated San Bernardino County, California (USA) may be scheduled; and may also be available, with extra notice and payment of any additional business licensing fees, for regional incorporated Cities or Counties of Los Angeles, Orange or Riverside, California (USA). Information about a new marriage license may be found at the County Clerk's Office.

Ask Me No More, painting by Lawrence Alma-Tadema, 1906
Ask Me No More painting by Lawrence Alma-Tadema, 1906

Reservations and Pricing


Contact

Please provide day and evening phone numbers, date, time and location and any other details regarding your event in your email.

Event Information

Weddings may require a larger staging area than expected, to allow space for multiple altars, ritual participants, etc. If you plan to work with a wedding coordinator, please forward contact information for the wedding coordinator to the wedding officiant as soon as practical, and/or within one week in advance of the event.

If you want your wedding officiant to speak specific words in your ritual, please provide a word document that she may read from during the event, as soon as practical and/or within one week in advance of the event.

Once begun, a simple ritual may take as little as 15 minutes to accomplish if you like efficiency, or it may continue for up an hour for more elaborate rituals.

Pricing Estimate

$320.00 to officiate marriage vows

Up to 60 miles driving is included (30 miles each way from officiant's location the day of the event). Participation in wedding rituals is included, for up to an hour in length, at no additional fee.

Payment in full of negotiated invoice is expected a minimum of one week in advance of the event.

Additional travel is negotiable, at current standard mileage rate per mile and/or an additional fee of $160 per hour compensation. Rituals lasting more than one hour may be negotiated at an additional fee of $160 per hour compensation.

Events scheduled in nature parks, remote or secluded areas, may be subject to additional fees for the wedding officiant’s security guard. Officiant’s security guard, if deemed necessary by the officiant and/or the parties, will be payable a minimum of one week in advance of the event at the wage provided by security company.

Unanticipated expenses  the day of the event (for example, time spent waiting for parties delayed in unexpected traffic) may be addressed separately the same day as the event, and invoiced at an hourly rate of $160 per hour as extra expenses following the event.

Unanticipated expenses shall be invoiced from the officiant to the parties within a week after the event, and are expected to be paid within a week of receiving the invoice, or within two weeks following the event, whichever happens sooner.

Pricing, additional and unexpected expenses estimates, if shown, are for convenience only and are subject to change based on specific negotiations between the officiant and the parties for each separate event.


Many Life Transitions May Include Clergy


The four seasons painting by Hugh Ramsay, 1902
The four seasons painting by Hugh Ramsay, 1902

* Affirmation of Love

* Hand Fasting

* Commitment

* Marriage

* Baby Naming

* Renewal of Vows

* Celebration of Life

* Consultations with Clergy




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Hiring a Female Clergy Member


You are very welcome to connect with your female clergy member on social networking before or after the event. A few suggestions for hiring a female clergy member for your event.

1. Give your wedding officiant a moment to ground and center before your event. Like you, she has been in traffic and needs a few minutes to adjust. It may be wise to wait to approach her until after she has left her vehicle. This is the clergy member’s first time meeting and greeting your friends and family, and possibly the first time at the location. Do you want to meet with the clergy member you hired for your event, or with random freeway drivers who have never submitted wedding paperwork?

Your wedding officiant has a lot to do, especially if the event is an alternative or creative wedding, such as a handfasting or Pagan style wedding with multiple elemental altars and unfamiliar rituals. Her job may be more complicated if the event is designed to be scripted, unique or different from a basic, standard wedding; especially if people unfamiliar with your spirituality style of ritual are attending, which is often the situation when family members and casual friends are in attendance.

2. Do not assume that because she is female, your wedding officiant should attend the bride in her private chambers with grooming or wardrobe assistance. If you wouldn’t ask a male clergy member to attend in the bride’s quarters, then please don’t request it of a female clergy member. It is much better for the bride to work with close female friends and family members before the event. Coordination with the wedding officiant before the event, via female members of the wedding party who may give message from the bride to the officiant, is much more discreet and professional.

Your wedding officiant is on a job assignment to provide a service. She is working as a member of the clergy on behalf of both the bride and the groom, as a business-person, prior to, during and after the event. Your clergy person is being paid to perform a ceremony. Do not be offended if she doesn't have time to attend the party after the event. Her main function is to assist with the ritual and, afterward, submit paperwork.

3. Your clergy wedding officiant will not provide décor, ambiance, catering, spa services, musical entertainment, or any other services for your event that are not stipulated in the contract. Clergy services do not include decorating the altar area. Clergy attire, consisting of a dress, shirt and suit, or a long black robe that does not require a purchase by the officiant, is included for your event. Additional costs for the wedding officiant to appear in an outfit specifically for the event (such as ”priestess garb” or a specific style or color) may be included in the invoice, if a purchase is required.

A special note for couples scheduling handfastings: Please discuss handfasting cords, altar cloths and symbols with the wedding officiant prior to the event. Do NOT bring “athames”, extra-large wands or anything that might be interpreted as a ”weapon” to a public ceremony, regardless of spiritual intent. These items may be beautiful and impressive, but are better left at home and used for private rituals, because they may be misunderstood by non-Wiccans gathering in a public place. Appropriate substitutions for elemental representations may be available. Ask your clergy member.

In short, although your female clergy member may seem like one of your best friends, she is neither a bride’s maid, nor a member of the wedding party, nor caterer, nor entertainer, nor your wedding decorations planner. A female wedding officiant’s basic duties are the same as a male officiant’s: to witness vows between the couple, to procure signatures for the marriage license, and to submit that license for recording after the ceremony.

When you hire a female clergy member to perform a service, she is “on the job” and will have “on the job” energies before, during and after your event. This is not to be rude; it's so that she will have everything together in order to submit your paperwork and have it approved, for the best and highest good of all concerned.